Perfectionism and its Impact on Setting and Achieving New Year's Resolutions and Goals
Perfectionism is a characteristic trait that can be perceived negatively associated with rigidity and specific mental health issues like eating disorders, disordered eating, depression, and anxiety. We often perceive it as a permanent trait, but it can be changed and worked on. The first semester into my master's degree journey was when my perfectionism strengthened as I stepped into my academic student after five years of graduating from my undergraduate program. This semester taught me and gave me pointers on how to approach academics in a balanced manner. The programming I learned was to be good at everything and always be top of the class. This semester challenged me and got me outside my comfort zone. The downside of perfectionism was the all-or-nothing mindset, hyper-focusing on mistakes, beating myself up, and not respecting my energy limits. I sacrificed my health habits with little breaks to ensure everything was perfect. It made me doubt my self-confidence and capabilities to succeed, even though I had what it takes to succeed.
Academics and goal resolutions are similar as they can be a black-and-white approach, and progress is not linear. Looking at it from the perspective of what there is to improve and excel at something alleviates the pressure from your shoulders. It is important to be kind to yourself and take care of yourself. Growth requires sacrificing your comfort to feel proud of yourself, but not to the point of burnout and exhaustion. The body gives you signs of exhaustion like headaches, anxiety, restlessness, susceptibility to illness, and low mood. Please don’t wait for your body and mind to crash as it gives you signs. It is important to listen and respond to your body accordingly.
The take-home messages that can help navigate perfectionism:
Be mindful and realistic of energy and goal-setting
Learn to adapt and be flexible to circumstances
Learn to improve to do better rather than be perfect
Learn to be resilient through frustration and challenges
Challenge yourself to a reasonable and realistic limit
Take breaks when needed
Be aware of unhealthy coping strategies for stress
Limit overworking to the point of exhaustion
Utilize breathing exercises and stress management strategies
Ensure a healthy diet and lifestyle
Have daily exercise and movement
Find sustainable ways to achieve your goals
Prioritize your health even if you are busy
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